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Now that I'm done dealing with uhaul for the night, I might continue this thought.
"Males simple, Females complex!" is just such a ridiculous idea to me, in bed and out of it. It's like this red meat the patriarchy threw all the genders, so that they'd fight each other over it.
I'm not even on about what gender is "more complex", as though that could ever be decided. I'm more concerned and disappointed with how much it leaches into even great guys, who get taught by the patriarchy that being sexually or romantically complex is for women and gay men. Any complexity has to be eradicated, or at least channeled and controlled.
They get blamed for the resulting rigidity and sensual mutedness. As though it were natural to maleness. It's not.